A Bad Boss is like a troubled marriage…
A bad Boss is like a troubled marriage.
It is not easy to manage.
Neither can you exit easily, nor can you carry on long.
You have heard it many times; people do not leave the company; they leave the situations and the manager.
Bad bosses could be unreasonable, bully, foul-mouthed, bad-tempered, etc.
There will not be open communication.
Ideally, in such a situation, you should set the boundaries whenever there is an opportunity.
Boss, I will do whatever needs to be done.
Would you please help me by not doing my name-calling and being a little reasonable?
When he shouts, muster the courage and say, I am ready to listen to all, but can we discuss without raising the voice.
It may work.
Many times, bullies will go on till you keep tolerating them.
I have been subjected to these situations many times.
I did not set boundaries, and my meek and reconciliatory approach made him bolder.
Many times I protested.
Sometimes I could contain the situation, sometimes not.
I could have been more effective in containing the situation if someone could coach me to better handle the situation.
But there was no one.
I am writing this so that you get some ammunition to think and act.
So, you are not subject to such conditions.
If you show some spine, they may give a pause.
It would be best if you let him know that his behavior is impacting your performance.
A word of caution, do not get into a mission of changing him or escalating to his Boss.
If he is an egoist, it will boomerang big time.
If the situation is not improving, the best option is to look for an alternative.
There is no point in being with someone who does not value you.
Your self-esteem may be dented beyond repair.
Do not be a maverick; look for a pragmatic solution.
Be aware that he does not know any better way of handling the situations, so there is no point joining the muck.